Question for women. Please advise.?

I am 24 yr old guy. I got this job 2 months back. I was interviewed by a woman who is single but is at a much senior position in the company. I mean, she is like working here for some 4 yrs. I have developed a liking for her. I don't know if she likes me, but yes she does respect me as a guy.





I want to tell her about my feelings but in the process I risk:


a) My job


b) My goodwill


c) Her respect for me





Should I be honest with her about my feelings or consider the fact that she makes more than me, is more experienced and senior to me etc..and let go of it?





Please advise me. I don't know how women think in a situation like that. I don't know if she is even thinking about me the way I think of her.





If you were in her place, would you even consider getting involved with someone like me.

Question for women. Please advise.?
Actually I would feel quite flattered. But then I might think it was funny,and without really knowing, make life at work a little difficult. Even if it was against the law to do so,there are ways. I think I am going to suggest for you to keep your feelings to yourself .If something is going to come from it,it will. But let her be the one to "Catch You". If a guy in your situation were to come to me with a confession of your feelings,I would instinctively back off. It doesn't matter how high up on the ladder you are,or how much money you make , it doesn't make you any better a person,or make you untouchable to others. But most women like to flirt,and be the one to pick out the man. If they are like me that is. I like to be the Hunter! Wait,wait,wait is my suggestion to you.
Reply:I think it is the "forbidden fruit" aspect that is attracting you to her. She would be risking her manager position to get involved with you. Her risk is greater then yours so consider how she may feel about that and do not take it personally if you are rebuffed by her.
Reply:Not good to mix work with private life. If it doesn't work out you're risking too much.
Reply:i would wait until after work to say anything. because if its said while on the job, then all kinds of stuff could be said, then it goes to the eeoe, etc.





if its said off the job, then no report can be made, plus it's afetr hours; so do you
Reply:well if i were you i would think it twice, i mean you're still very fresh at work and that might turn her down. i would try to focus on work and let her make the first move, if she does well go for it, but the other way round won't be practical both for your work and for her respect for you
Reply:It is never wise to mix business with pleasure. Sure, you work a lot of hours and this is the main place you will meet the opposite sex for companionship.





In your case, you just joined the company -- don't risk it at all. Build your reputation in your work. She is in a higher position than you are, and that puts "sexual harassment" into the picture.





It's just really a bad idea.
Reply:Hi there! As you know, this is a very tricky situation! It's hard to give advice without knowing the people AND the company involved, but I'll try my best.





First of all, it can be hard for women to succeed in the business world. There are fewer women at the top of companies than men. If this woman is pretty high up and has been there a while, she probably loves her job and had to work hard to get where she is. Even if she does have feelings for you...she is unlikely to want to risk HER job to date you. You are worried about this too, and you have a lower position than her and haven't been there very long - so imagine how worried she could be!





There are a few things you should look into. First of all, is she your supervisor in any way? Are you in the same department? If you don't report to her and she is NOT responsible for evaluating you or approving anything you do, then there's a better chance for you.





The other thing you need to check out is your company's HR policy. Go and see the HR person and discuss relationships between employees. Many companies have policies about this kind of thing Inter-office dating might be completely forbidden, or it might be okay.





Keep in mind that even if it is okay by your company's rules, it still might jeopardize your positions because people will probably judge you. :( If this woman is very focused on her career, she might not want to risk it anyway. And of course there is always the question of whether or not she is attracted to you!





Here's how I would approach it: talk to her alone (but not in a really obvious way that would make people gossip) and invite her to do something outside of work. If she say yes, that's obviously a really good sign! If she says no, she'll probably explain why not. If you guys do hang out outside of work, you could mention your feelings to her and ask her how she feels about inter-office relationships. If you're REALLY into her, you may have to consider transferring to a different job so that you can date.





The thing is, she's a woman and she's been there a while. I'm sure this isn't the first time this has come up. :) Good luck - it's quite a complicated situation. I hope I've helped somehow.